Words to Live By: 08.15.14 – How I Live My Life


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Learn to love without CONDITION.
Talk without bad INTENTIONS.
Give without any REASONS.
And most of all, care for people without EXPECTATION.


Life happens so quickly that I haven’t had the chance to stop, write and share the positive changes I’ve made (though mostly documented on my Instagram @kris_aroundthehemline)! Yes! That’s me in the photo when I visited Hawaii last month on a little R&R getaway! I hiked up Koko Head Mountain just in time for the sunrise! When you see natural beauty in its most purest form, it changes your mind-set – your petty problems don’t seem so big anymore. The positive outlook and experiences I’ve been having has been inspiring me to pick up the laptop/iPad/iPhone and start blogging again (hopefully)!

Positive perceptions lead to positive outcomes. Those actually read my posts know that I believe in changing perception and look at situations in every angle, not just from your viewpoint. As the quote above says…

Learn to love without condition. If you love that person, then you love them. Be real. You may not always need to be in their lives to love them. As long as you understand why YOU allow yourself to love that person, then loving them is unconditional.

Talk without bad intention. Yes, gossip is everywhere – between friends, colleagues and family but I try to do my best to not let negative and defamation come out of these lips. No need to lie or fabricate! Speak the truth. Always.

Give without any reason. Like I said earlier, God blessed me with a giving heart and I give not to receive and without to be owed. I give because it is a sign of peace, caring and/or love for people. Put out positive vibes!

And most of all, care for people without expectation. There have been several times at work where I could have watched a coworker fail. It’s not my responsibility right? What do I get out of it? Well, caring for others doesn’t make you a doormat nor does it cost much (in my given scenario it doesn’t). Part of being a positive leader (an overall person) is empowering others to reach their potential so I always stretch out a hand.

Be nice to each other and let all that negativity just pass you by!


Words To Live By: 12.17.13 – Speculate, Fabricate and Hate


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When people don’t know what’s going on your your life, they SPECULATE.
When they think they know, they FABRICATE.
And when they do know, they just HATE.


Saw this quote randomly online (tried to look up the original author but there were several authors and annoymous leads so if anyone knows, let me know!) and just got to thinking how TRUE this particular quote it is. When one is successful in any aspect of life – career, family, wealth, fitness, beauty, talent or in happiness – they are not worried about what others think. Successful people focus on drive, motivation, positivity and following their dreams and goals. Focusing on any type of negativity only slows or even hinders their success process! Who has time to give to that? Not I.

Continue to focus on your goals and when you get that weakness to quit, just go a little further and remind yourself why you started and how far you’ve come. Through the years, I found that people will judge and hate on you no matter what you do and judge you even more when they don’t know truth so they end up speculating about your life. When they try to piece their version of the truth, they only fabricate a life for you that fits into their ideas of you. But when they do know, they just hate on your success because they haven’t reached their own successes. Pay no mind to the naysayers, the haters, the judgmentals, or the negatives because while they’re busy focusing on you, you’re focusing on your dreams and goals. So keep it pushing and always strive to be a better version of you.


Words To Live By: 12.09.13 – All Life Is…


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All life is an experience. The more you experiment the better. – Ralph Waldo Emerson


Happy Holiday Everyone!

It’s that time of year again…where families are gathered and memories made in ugly sweaters and Santa hats. But it’s also a time of reflection for some – those that reflect on the year past and the year to come. We check mark the experiences and “To Do” list we set out for the year and we make new lists. What’s on your list for 2014?

Just as the infamous Transcendentalist Ralph Waldo Emerson stated, life is an experience. Good or bad. So the more that we live life and experiment with the things we are curious about, the more experiences we have. This doesn’t mean “YOLO” (for those who aren’t familiar with the phrase made popular by Canadian rapper, Drake in recent years means “You Only Live Once”) and live carelessly and irresponsibly but to truly make choices of experiences that grow you and possibly positively change you.

I typically get asked why I move around so much. My answer to them is “Why Not?” There is so much of the world to see that I feel I would be doing my life injustice to NOT go and live in these cities especially if the opportunity is readily available. I love the fact that I’ve lived in our Nation’s Capital (Washington, D.C.) and one of the fastest paced cities (New York, NY) and in the sunny smog-congested city (Los Angeles, CA…still love ya LA!) and even in the Finest City (San Diego, CA) within 10 years (not to mention my long-time stay internationally in Japan). Within these cities, I learned more about myself and gained not only personal growth but career growth as well. So all in all, go out there and experience everything life has to offer! “You Only Live Once” but if done right, you only need one.


Outfit: Simple Harem Pants


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I was finally able to unpack some clothing boxes from New York and found my favorite harem pants! I love these pants because it has a thick elastic waist band so it’s perfect for tucking in tanks and tees and it gives me the “high-waisted” look! Just accessorize with one statement piece jewelry and you’re set! I opted for a chunky white and gold (one of my favorite color combination) necklace.

Pants: Necessary Clothing NY / Top: H&M / Shoes: ShoeDazzle /
Watch: Michael Kors / Purse: Rebecca Minkoff

As always, here’s my Polyvore version of my outfit!

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Outfit: Leather Leggings


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What’s not to love about Fall? Crisp Weather, Pumpkin-based food and drinks galore, upcoming holidays and new Fall Outfits!

Leather leggings are perfect for this time of year because it’s that perfect amount of chilly weather to stay warm in! You can definitely dress up or dress down this essential piece with a chic button-down chiffon top or a t-shirt and denim overlay! See how I styled leather leggings below!

How would you style your leather leggings? Please share with your comments!


Words To Live By: 10.08.13 – Simple


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Live without pretending,
Love without depending,
Listen without defending,
Speak without offending.


Stumbled across the this saying today and just had to share!! I’m not saying I’m perfect but I try to live my life based on these simple “rules.”

Live without pretending… Always be REAL with yourself and the situation at hand – what are the facts? Never pretend about the person you are. How are you to be a better person when your own foundation is fictitious?

Love without depending…
Never depend on others loving you if you don’t love yourself first. Love should never fill a void that you should be fill yourself as love should only be an additional piece to the amazing person you are.

Listen without defending…When others speak to you about you, try not be defensive and just hear what they are saying. Their feelings do matter as well. Their feelings and concerns could be constructive criticism to making yourself a better person.

Speak without offending… Control what you say and how you say it. You never know what can hurt someone and yourself. Try not to speak out of anger or irrational thoughts.

Have a awesome and fabulous week!


Fitness: Fabletics from JustFab.com


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Since being back from New York, I’ve been soaking in all the sun and recreational activities that I’ve been missing out on! In the last month or so, I’ve really focused on getting my fitness and health back on track! And what better way to motivate yourself to work out (aside from the health aspects and looking even more hotter than you are) than an excuse to shop some cute workout gear!? I love bright colors in the gym so usually I’m in capri workout pants and some sort of tank top. Since work out gear get quite expensive, I’ve searched through racks at Big 5, Sports Authority, and the Nike and Adidas outlets for atheltic wear on sale ($45-60 for a sports bra!? Yikes, most of my bras don’t cost that much!)

So, how excited was I when I checked my email after today’s workout to see that the monthly shoe club, JustFab.com has an extension of their company geared towards women’s athletic wear called Fabletics?! The company is co-found by the beautiful Kate Hudson and the Fabletics blog offers some great fitness tips and recipes as well. Super excited! To place the icing on the cake, I was offered a free athletic wear outfit as their promotional launch! Awesome, right?!

So I chose the “Channel” outfit which included the Omemee Tank in blue and the Lima Campri in grey. I immediately loved the the cut on the Omemee tank since it’s different from the standard racer back tanks that are around. Since this tank has a built-in sports bra, I’m wondering how much support it’ll have. I can’t wait until my shipment comes in and I can try them out! Thanks Fabletics!

Also, follow me and my journey to a fitter and healthier life as well as my outfits and Words to Live by sayings on my Instragram page: @kris_aroundthehemline!


Disclosure: I never want my readers to feel like I’m promoting brands and products on my blog…just because. I will always disclose when I get products and services for free. Thanks!!


Outfit: Fall Rock


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So even though Summer is winding down, it doesn’t seem like it in Southern California! Some areas are still in 90s and 100s daily! But in anticipation of Fall, I pulled out my boots and paired them with some skinny jeans and a tank top! Still very casual and simple but night outing appropriate! One of my favorite color combinations are black, grey, white and silver hardware accessories just because it’s so edgy and can be dressed up or down. What’s your favorite ways to show your inner rocker?

Jeans: New York & Company / Tank: H&M / Boots: Shoedazzle / Watch: Michael Kors

Check out the my Polyvore for more outfit ideas!


Words to Live By: 09.03.13 – Live a Positive Life


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You cannot surround yourself with negative people and expect to live a positive life.

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Here is an example in life that opposites do not attract. A negative and a positive do not cancel the other out. A negative does not repel a negative. A positive does not repel a positive. It’s actually the opposite, negative builds on negativity. Positivity builds on positivity.

Since being back home (for those new readers, I recently moved from New York back to California), I’ve been able to reflect on the environments, situations, relationships and the energy that surrounds me here and how they surrounded me in New York. Although it seems rudimentary to know this revelation, it never really dawn on me that being surround by those that complained, those that refuse to make new changes about their life/situation and those that just can’t let go of the past were just negative. I thought I was being a good friend/colleague/family by lending an ear and a shoulder to cry on but all the while, it was making me feel negative!

I’m NOT saying that you leave all those negative people to fend on their own but you start to draw boundaries. Sometimes all they need is just a reality check on how negative they are becoming. There was point in my life where a truly good friend of mine gave me a reality check and said to me, “I just can’t be around you” because all I seemed to do was complain about a situation that I wasn’t going to change. I was so stubborn that I thought I was stronger by dealing/staying in my negative sitaution. Sadly, we didn’t speak for quite some time. Of course, I was offended but her action of choosing to leave a negative situation (me) but it made me realize, I wasn’t the stronger one, I was actually weaker and SHE was stronger for leaving. I didn’t want my negative situation/complaints to be cause of losing a good friendship. So I made positive changes in my life and now we encourage each other to be make positive choices for ourselves and those around us.

If something – whether that be a job, a relationship or friendship – isn’t serving you a positive purpose in life, then why keep that in your life? I know that life is all about balance so we DO need some negativity in our lives just to remind us to be thankful for the positivity in we have, but we must all find a balance. Be the positive person that people surround themselves with, you never know who you can inspire or motivate.

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Words To Live By: 08.27.13 Face the Change


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Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced. – James Baldwin

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I can’t begin to count how many times I’ve had to tell myself that there are things in I want to change but in retrospect there are just things I can’t change. I make decisions in hopes that I make the right one for myself and that I stay true by ensuring that my intentions are to progress forward. I do what’s necessary without compromising the person I am and the person I want to be. From then on, any other factors are external.

Through the years, I’ve experienced (and continue to still experience) that action is the only requirement to conquer doubt. How can we expect change when nothing has been done to make the change? Thoughts are nothing without action. Intentions are nothing without actions.  The “I was about to…” statements are nothing without action. The fear of negative outcomes is a the usual culprit of inactivity. I know that I’ve kept from making decisions because of the fear of what I’ll lose rather than recognize what I may gain. I would spend countless nights debating on the outcome but in reality the outcome is a simple equation – it’s a 50/50 chance – yet making NO decision is a 100% ZERO chance of anything changing.

I would try to figure out ways to change the person by trying to convince them to see it my way because in my eyes, my intentions were always for the positive. Big mistake. Until I accepted (I say “accepted” because I knew and realized I couldn’t change someone but I was being stubborn to accept it) that I couldn’t change the situation unless I changed ME, I remained stuck in the situation. Zero change. Even in my current quest for a fitter and healthier life, I make decisions to make changes on how I work out, what I put into my body and care for my well-being.

So as we go through this crazy roller coaster of life just remember that you cannot expect things to change unless you face the decisions to make a change. Baby steps.

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