Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced. – James Baldwin
I can’t begin to count how many times I’ve had to tell myself that there are things in I want to change but in retrospect there are just things I can’t change. I make decisions in hopes that I make the right one for myself and that I stay true by ensuring that my intentions are to progress forward. I do what’s necessary without compromising the person I am and the person I want to be. From then on, any other factors are external.
Through the years, I’ve experienced (and continue to still experience) that action is the only requirement to conquer doubt. How can we expect change when nothing has been done to make the change? Thoughts are nothing without action. Intentions are nothing without actions. The “I was about to…” statements are nothing without action. The fear of negative outcomes is a the usual culprit of inactivity. I know that I’ve kept from making decisions because of the fear of what I’ll lose rather than recognize what I may gain. I would spend countless nights debating on the outcome but in reality the outcome is a simple equation – it’s a 50/50 chance – yet making NO decision is a 100% ZERO chance of anything changing.
I would try to figure out ways to change the person by trying to convince them to see it my way because in my eyes, my intentions were always for the positive. Big mistake. Until I accepted (I say “accepted” because I knew and realized I couldn’t change someone but I was being stubborn to accept it) that I couldn’t change the situation unless I changed ME, I remained stuck in the situation. Zero change. Even in my current quest for a fitter and healthier life, I make decisions to make changes on how I work out, what I put into my body and care for my well-being.
So as we go through this crazy roller coaster of life just remember that you cannot expect things to change unless you face the decisions to make a change. Baby steps.